WHERE DO OUR ATTITUDES COME FROM?

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the impre I believe that heredity (the genes that you inherit) havesome part in forming attitudes. However, most importantin shaping them, is the family environment, especially inyour early childhood: the impressionable years up to theage of seven.
Also critical are your lifetime experiencesand events (whether happy or traumatic) in later years.What is happening in your life today, yesterday and allthose past years. There are three areas of life in which yourattitudes are formed.1.
A sense of BELONGING which is picked up before birth.The "vibes" in the womb of the mother (hard to be a fatherin this process) will determine whether we are really want-ed by the mother, and this can determine our degree ofsecurity (or insecurity) in later life.2. Your sense of WORTH will be determined by your im-mediate family in your early childhood.
They instil in you aninner sense of well-being and of being loved. The role ofmothers and fathers is critical in the socialization processfor the development of your attitudes.
Their expectationsof you play a big part in your life script.3. Your sense of COMPETENCE will also originate in thefamily environment.
That is why it is very important topraise and encourage children. If they are continually repr-imanded, children will feel that they can't ever do thingsright.
This then develops into the child thinking, "I am aperson of no worth who is no good at anything." This atti-tude grows over time and can be re-inforced in the workingenvironment. Even extremely competent business execu-tives can feel insecure on a personal level and have difficultyin personal relationships.DEVELOPING SUCCESS ATTITUDESGolda Meier, an earlier Prime Minister of Israel, was onceasked what made Israel such a success against the mightof the united Arab armies.
Israel, as you most probablyknow, is a small country set in the middle of a desert, withvirtually no natural resources and no wealth. Meier replied,"All that my country has is the spirit of it's people.
If thepeople lost their spirit, not even the might of the UnitedStates of America could save us." A right attitude through-out the country overcame all the odds and insurmountabledifficulties throughout it's turbulent history.The top salesman for Bell telephones in America is a quadri-plegic. Although he can only blink his eyes and open hismouth, his attitude and perseverance have made him num-ber one.
(Stanford University after doing extensive research,said that all success is 87.5% as a result of your attitudes.Your skills, abilities and knowledge make up the other 12.5%). HOW DO I GET THE RIGHT ATTITUDE?1.
Enlist the co-operation of a positive close friend that youcan confide in. Share your personal goals and dreams.
Ig-nore the "knockers" who will try to put you down out of jeal-ousy (the "tall poppy syndrome" so prevalent here in NewZealand, but especially Australia).2. Seek out the right people (successful and enthusiasticones who have the right attitude).
DON'T NEGLECT YOUROLD FRIENDS TO GET IDEAS , but remember, your poten-tial has nothing to do with your ultimate performance.3. Select a model to emulate or follow...who you would liketo be like? (Only if you are not happy with the way you are.)4.
Learn from your mistakes. Daley Thompson, the formergreat British athlete in the decathlon said..."I will learn morethan any other experience from my failures than my successes."In his goal setting, Thompson was content to grow slowly, be-cause slow growth is more solid, and he did it in small steps.Look beyond your mistakes and savour successful experiences.Don't feel embarrassed or uncomfortable about your achieve-ments.
Make daily affirmations to yourself that you are doingwell and are on the right track. Reward yourself for minorachievements, or steps on the road to your bigger goals.
Giveyourself credit, no matter how small your achievements,because mental rewards will boost your motivation. Allrewards must come from within.
This conditioning will cult-ivate apositive attitude in you. (Just like Pavlov's dogs were con-ditioned to salivate through association of ideas.) I remem-ber that from my studies in psychology many many moonsago.Look forward to positive outcomes and rehearse them inyour mind, rather than anticipating failure.
Don't repeatbad experiences-our attitude ties us down and limits us,so that mediocrity becomes our destiny.5. Make the most of any situation you find yourself in.
Trynot to be anxious. Things will work out in the end.6.
Avoid self-pity. Resilient people don't feel sorry for them-selves too long.
The person who wallows in self-pity or bitterness spends too much time on introspection and not enoughtime plotting a comeback.7. Be persistent.
Winning often means getting up one moretime than you have been knocked down. Persevere andnever give up.8.
Adapt to change and see it as a challenge rather than asuncertain and frightening.9. Always keep things in perspective.
Because our job issuch a big part of our self image, a career set-back canmake us lose perspective. If you become unemployed,don't see yourself as a failure, but rather as having optionsand an opportunity to pursue a new direction.and finally,10.
Believe in yourself, but trust in God .YOUR ATTITUDE DETERMINES YOUR DESTINYandYOUR ATTITUDE DETERMINES YOUR ALTITUDERealistically analyse your strengths and weaknesses. As amatter of interest, people generally list more weaknessesthan strengths, especially women (nice things those!).
Toooften people discount their accomplishments and focus onwhat they haven't been able to do.Making money in itself is not success, but rather a by-productof success. Most successful people use the technique of visual-isation to foresee ideal outcomes.
If you can foresee gettingyour desires in the mind, then you can get there in the body...at least I think so!"As a man thinketh so is he."Haven't I got that one in already?Success or failure is not a matter of luck. The key ingredientis a winning attitude, together with PERSEVERANCE andcommon sense.Your attitude determines your destiny:Remember to stick at a task when things don't go right."When the going gets tough, the tough get going", as mydear father used to tell me often.
Did it work though withme? All successful people have true grit and stickability,as well as natural ability. The winner is often the personwho gets up one more time than they are knocked down.You will hit attitudes in others who say 'you can't do it'.
Youhave a choice then: a) To remain convinced that you can doit. b) Stay with their attitude and quit yours.All the world's greats would never have been great if theyhad listened to the opinion of even their closest friends.Caruso, the world's greatest tenor, was told his voice sound-ed like a tin can.
Thomas Edison, the inventor of motionpictures, was advised that no-one would pay to listen tosound coming from a screen. Edison told Henry Ford to giveup making cars and work for him instead and make millions.Marie Curie was told to forget about radium.
Laurence Olivierwas told by friends to give up acting. Benjamin Franklin wastold to stop fiddling with lightning.
People told JohnnyWeismuller (Tarzan) that no-one would ever beat his fiftyswimming records. His 1936 world record was the qualifyingtime for the 1972 Olympics! Attitudes of the time said hisrecords could never be beaten.
Now 12 year old girls regular-ly beat his times.Christopher Columbus took 14 years to raise funding for hisships and crew before setting out on his explorations. Thescience and culture of the day had said that the world wasflat.
However, Queen Isabella and King Ferdinand of Spainhad faith in Columbus. With that faith and money behindhim, Columbus took just six months to discover the NewWorld.In the same way, a "flat-world mind-set" can limit our thinkingand lead to mediocrity.
In the same way that you can trainfleas to jump a certain height in a bowl, when you take awaythe bowl, they still do not jump higher than the learnedheight.Our mind can tie us down and limit us, so that mediocritybecomes our destiny. Negative attitudes get cemented in concrete.WITH THE RIGHT ATTITUDE YOU CAN BE GREATERTHAN ANYTHING THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU:ATTITUDE BEATS FACTS EVERY TIME.DARE TO BE DIFFERENT * * *A short exercise:Talk to your best friend or partner *(I hate that commonNew Zealand expression- cheapens the institution of mar-riage anddenotes immoral living - Yes, sir "Mr goody goodytwo shoes") about:* I far prefer the term 'spouse', which could be an abbrev-iation for "spastic mouse".
Enough about my personalopinions...1. The picture you hold of yourself (i.e..
how you see yourself):Is it positive or negative, are you an introvert, extrovert,popular?2. How you see other people seeing you - their perceptionof you, or looking glass).Which brings to mind the following wise words (not mine)..."I am not what I think I am.""I am not what you think I am.""I am what I think you think I am."Abraham Lincoln grew up in a very difficult environment.He had less than one year of formal schooling.
He experienc-ed defeat and failure year after year, but is one of the great-est success stories of all time. In spite of everything, hehad the right attitude to achieve success.
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